Friends Do Things Together

Friendships are hard.

Well, relationships in general are not a walk in the park. I struggle with friendships because I like being alone. An introvert if you prefer. 

All my life I have had this rule that I could hang out once a week. (I made this rule in elementary, not my parents, but me.) Of course, as life moved forward I was dancing multiple times a week, working, and singing. All of these activities had some of my 'best friends' and because of this, I didn't really need to make an effort to hang out with people. I loved doing all these extracurricular activities because each activity had different people. What I am saying is, in high school it was easy to hang out with friends. But then I graduated and my friendships haven't exactly been the same. 

I have learned in the past two(ish) years that best friends forever doesn't mean diddly-squat. More like best friends for the day, month, year. -And I really don't mean this to hurt feelings or point out certain people I am just saying how things are for me.

I love my friends but I honestly don't have the time and energy to fit everyone in on a regular basis. So if we communicate in some way at least twice a year, consider yourself very lucky. Adulthood makes everyone busy and I understand that. I have a few friends from high school that I am still in touch with. I consider Jami one of my best friends even though we rarely talk and hang out. Our lives are crazy busy and it is hard to stay all caught up. Yet, when we see each other we get caught up with each other's lives and it is like no time has past. I considered this a great relationship because time doesn't affect us. But I also take it for granted. I forget to send her a message to see how she is doing. I just assume that life is okay and I will hear about it next time we hang out. It really is a bad mentality but I am only human.

Beside, it is okay to occasionally catch up with people's lives by looking at their Facebook profile. And I count that as effort.

Anyways, thanks for reading my ramblings.

Heidi & Jami